To My Confused Friend

A friend of mine asked me what I think about his current situation. His girlfriend dumped him for another guy and he's trying to move on with his life. He's currently trying to woo someone when all of a sudden his ex-girlfriend called him up and asked him if they could mend their previous relationship . He's confused. I dunno what's the real deal between him and his current 'almost friend' and his ex-girlfriend. I'm not even sure why he asked me such question. Maybe an affirmative action for a lame excuse to dump someone or simply the truth.

I am an expert wannabe so I said, "As a friend I’d ask you, do you still love her? Kse if you do, what are the chances are you willing to take? Have you forgiven her and willing ka bang tanggapin siya ulit? K’se if you did forgive her, you should be sure to yourself that you won’t be throwing what she did to you on her face. New life." Naks!

Well, he's confused. What can I say? He's confused. Period. I can't blame him.

With his current situation, it made me rethink with what I had with my old boyfie whom I had the longest relationship I ever had. An on/off relationship, he was my first boyfriend, he became my last, he WAS the love of my life and he was my childhood sweetheart. A big part of my past maybe that's why I had a hard time to let him go THEN. Let's see...

He was my first boyfriend when we were in HS for about a year but we have to break it off simply because we're too young.

Went to college, I met other good looking and wonderful guys whom I had relationships with.

Then we meet again. He's financially stable and managing their family-owned business/company while I was busy earning my second degree. We became an item again.

He's a guy you want to spend your time with. He's good looking, full of surprises, mysterious, intellectually stimulating, exciting and full of fun. So what is it that made me end it with him? We grew up separately within our relationship. Couldn't find common ground for both of us anymore.

Since I became a Christian when I was in HS I have grown so much spiritually while he, on the other hand, is not a Christian and cannot comprehend what it really is to become one.

So that's it. The end of story. He's happy now and I am happy where I am.

As for my confused friend, I hope you consider the following common bad dating beliefs before you decide to date again:

* You choose potential partners who are incapable of meeting your emotional needs.
* You think love has to be difficult, painful, and/or hard.
* You think your potential partner is going to fix whatever you don't like about yourself or your life.
* You believe time is running out on your search for love and/or your chance to have children.

Godspeed to you amigo!

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Great Things Start from Small Beginnings

I was trying to make a boat and an airplane out of paper. I can't remember. Well...

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she was then

as a child i thought i was the only one who has the longest name. that proved to be true in my own theory whenever i have to practice writing my complete name in a paper (with blue and red alternate lines as my guide), i have to be the last one to say, "i'm through ma'am." then my teacher will have her red ballpoint pen checked my work. i still have to get five stars though because it can be a very tiring work for a six year old girl to repeatedly write her names in 20 big letters.

since i've got three names, my mom and dad decided to call me by my third name. it is a long name but it is definitely the name i used since highschool. i use it whenever i have exams, quizzes or anything that needed less time to write. but of course, in legal documents, real name has to be written in bold letters.

but during my junior high, my bestfriend gave me a nickname. since then everyone called me by my nick. that was a good thing, new nick, new name, new me. i instantly recognizes whenever someone call me by my real name that he/she is someone i met before my junior high. they may be from my neighborhood, a relative or a childhood friend. and if someone calls me by my nick, i know that he/she is someone i met during or after my junior high.

then i go to college, same nick, same name. i still get to asked what is my real name and still have the same impression of having a long name. but it all changed when i met my when thesis adviser. his first child's name consists of 14 names and i am not kidding. really, 14 first names. so i guess, it negated my own theory that i have the longest name when i was child. i wonder how did it go with his child?