Wednesday, May 27, 2009

Copied and Pasted Lists of Toxicity

Although we like to think that the people in our lives are well-adjusted, happy, healthy minded individuals, we sometimes realize that it just isn't so. Personally, I've had moments where I'll be skipping through my day, happy as can be, thinking life is grand and BAM, I'll be blindsided by someone who manages to knock the happy wind out of my sails. Sometimes it is easy to write it off and other times, not so much.
Maybe you are a positive person, but when you are around a certain individual, you feel negative. Or, maybe you have an idealistic view of the world and when you are with certain people, you are made to feel silly, unrealistic or delusional. Or, maybe you pride yourself in being completely independent and in control of your life, but when you are around a certain family member, you regress into a state of childhood.
Some of these situations, and yes, these people, can have a tremendously negative impact on our lives. And, although we are all human and have our 'issues,' some 'issues' are quite frankly, toxic. They are toxic to our happiness. They are toxic to our mental outlook. They are toxic to our self-esteem. And they are toxic to our lives. They can suck the life out of us and even shorten our lifespan.

Here are the worst of the toxic personalities out there and how to spot them:
1. Manipulative Mary: These individuals are experts at manipulation tactics. Is a matter of fact, you may not even realize you have been manipulated until it is too late. These individuals figure out what your 'buttons' are, and push them to get what they want.
  • Why they are toxic: These people have a way of eating away at your belief system and self-esteem. They find ways to make you do things that you don't necessarily want to do and before you know it, you lose your sense of identity, your personal priorities and your ability to see the reality of the situation. The world all of a sudden becomes centered around their needs and their priorities.
2. Narcissistic Nancy: These people have an extreme sense of self-importance and believe that the world revolves around them. They are often not as sly as the Manipulative Marys of the world, but instead, tend to be a bit overt about getting their needs met. You often want to say to them "It isn't always about you."
  • Why they are toxic: They are solely focused on their needs, leaving your needs in the dust. You are left disappointed and unfulfilled. Further, they zap your energy by getting you to focus so much on them, that you have nothing left for yourself.
3. Debbie Downers: These people can't appreciate the positive in life. If you tell them that it is a beautiful day, they will tell you about the impending dreary forecast. If you tell them you aced a mid-term, they'll tell you about how difficult the final is going to be.
  • Why they are toxic: They take the joy out of everything. Your rosy outlook on life continues to get squashed with negativity. Before you know it, their negativity consumes you and you start looking at things with gray colored glasses yourself.
4. Judgmental Jims: When you see things as cute and quirky, they see things as strange and unattractive. If you find people's unique perspectives refreshing, they find them 'wrong'. If you like someone's eclectic taste, they find it 'disturbing' or 'bad'.
  • Why they are toxic: Judgmental people are much like Debbie Downers. In a world where freedom rings, judgment is sooo over. If the world was a homogeneous place, life would be pretty boring. Spending a lot of time with these types can inadvertently convert you into a judgmental person as well.
5. Dream Killing Keiths: Every time you have an idea, these people tell you why you can't do it. As you achieve, they try to pull you down. As you dream, they are the first to tell you it is impossible.
  • Why they are toxic: These people are stuck in what is instead of what could be. Further, these individuals eat away at your self-esteem and your belief in yourself. Progress and change can only occur from doing new things and innovating, dreaming the impossible and reaching for the stars.
6. Insincere Illissas: You never quite feel that these people are being sincere. You tell a funny story, they give you a polite laugh. You feel depressed and sad and they give you a 'there, there' type response. You tell them you are excited about something and you get a very ho-hum response.
  • Why they are toxic: People who aren't sincere or genuine build relationships on superficial criteria. This breeds shallow, meaningless relationships. When you are really in need of a friend, they won't be there. When you really need constructive criticism, they would rather tell you that you are great the way you are. When you need support, they would rather see you fail or make a fool of yourself.
7. Disrespectful Dannys: These people will say or do things at the most inappropriate times and in the most inappropriate ways. In essence, they are more subtle, grown up bullies. Maybe this person is a friend who you confided in and uses your secret against you. Maybe it is a family member who puts their busy-body nose into your affairs when it is none of their business. Or maybe, it is a colleague who says demeaning things to you.
  • Why they are toxic: These people have no sense of boundaries and don't respect your feelings or, for that matter, your privacy. These people will cause you to feel frustrated and disrespected.
8. Never Enough Nellies: You can never give enough to these people to make them happy. They take you for granted and have unrealistic expectations of you. They find ways to continually fault you and never take responsibility for anything themselves.
  • Why they are toxic: You will spend so much time trying to please them, that you will end up losing yourself in the process. They will require all of your time and energy, leaving you worn out and your own needs sacrificed.
All of these personalities have several things in common. 1) the more these people get away with their behavior, the more they will continue. 2) Unfortunately, most of these people don't see that what they do is wrong and as a result, talking to them about it will fall on deaf ears, leaving you wondering if you are the crazy one. 3) Most of these people get worse with age, making their impact on you stronger with time.
Frankly, life is too short to spend your time dealing with toxicity. If you can, avoid spending mucho time with people who are indicative of these behaviors and you'll feel a lot happier. Have you encountered these personalities? What have you done? Any personalities you would add?

Okay, fine. You have to forgive me for just copying this WHOLE article. I concur to everything she have said and I don't have anything to add up. It's like, 'yeah, I have those people in my life.' Darn. Picture my life. Wahahaha! But no worries, I can make it through the day and be recharged the next day. Am I blessed or what? A huge difference to have Someone bigger than yourself, My God. :D


Sunday, May 24, 2009


Si Mr. Nognog and obchoinkchoink. The tall and the petite. The man who works in the middle east and a housewife in pinas. A happy couple. Just got married in a christian garden wedding. so happy for them.

Kung gusto n'yo pang kiligin at mapangiti, punta lang kayo sa blog ng ardeytology.

Friday, May 22, 2009

Honey Bee

I am enjoying listening to her music and I'm pretty sure you'll love her too. Enjoy!

Zee Avi performs Honey Bee, Bitter Heart, Kantoi, and Monte from her self titled debut album on Brushfire Records.

For more info, you can check out her site:


Filipinos and Malaysians don't differ in looks that much, eh? Well, do you still remember your history? Malay, Indo at Aeta ang mga ninuno natin. Tanda mo na? Hehehe...Wink!

Monday, May 18, 2009

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To anyone contemplating a similar leap of faith, he has this to say:

Go ahead, follow your heart! But at the same time, be brepared.

-Estan Cabigas

It's Langyaw's anniversary! Kudos sa iyo kabayan!

Where's My Pump?

I'm on the verge of giving up.

Have to go back to the place of 'remembrance.'

Remember that...

You are blessed to be a blessing.
You have been through so much and this one is just one of those things.
If every part of your bone wants to quit, the more you shouldn't quit.
This too shall pass.
For what its worth, it's never too late.

From a naive, despondent soul wearing a smiling face. It's me, Payaso talking.

Friday, May 15, 2009

Cut Your Own Hair

I gave myself a haircut. Literally. I am not an expert in cutting hairs, but I do know how. Photographic memory serves me well when I first tried to cut my hair. Just put some clip here and there, cut here and there. Voila! I have my new layered hairstyle. When my mom saw that I can cut hair, she even asked me to cut her hair and paid me. Hahaha! Not just my mom, but my brother's as well. I'm getting better and better. Did I mention I do it with my ShihTzu's fur too? Wahaha!

As I have read in, cutting your hair at home can save money and allow you to experiment with daring new looks.

Just follow these simple steps:

Step 1

Start with freshly washed, damp hair. If your hair is dry, spritz with water until damp. Comb out.

Step 2

Start with a plan. What do you want to do--cut off two inches or drastically change your whole look?

Step 3

Pull a small section of hair straight in your hand. Place your fingers where you would like to cut. Only cut about a half inch at a time.

Step 4

After each snip, stop and re-examine progress. Let hair fall straight. Is it even?

Step 5

Cut one side and then the other, rather than alternating--that often leads to cutting off more than desired. Instead, cut one side to desired length, and then match on other side.

Step 6

To cut layers, cut sections of hair to different lengths, making each cut on a sharp angle.

Step 7

Try to pull as much hair to the front to cut, but if you must cut the back, go slowly, use two mirrors (facing each other) and examine progress after each cut.

Tips & Warnings

* Relax! It's just hair. No matter what you do, it can be fixed in some way. If not, it will grow back!
* Go slowly and do not be nervous. Anxiety will increase your chance of making a mistake.
* If you find yourself continuing to try to even out sides, STOP! You will soon cut off more hair than you desired. Stop, take a deep breath, and reassess. Your hair does not have to be EXACTLY even.


Wrinkly Tattoo


I miss watching Tagalog Movies. :(

I Love You, Man

Just seen I Love You, Man starring Paul Rudd and Jason Segel. A boy-man comedy genre that is more than likeable. It was even commented by Peter Travers of RollingStone as hugely enjoyable. It didn't make me laugh out loud but I find it funny though. It's Rated-R so there are some jokes and pervasive language that I can't dig or...let's just say I'm bleepin' it on my mind. LOL for me. Well, I'm not that much unto dirty jokes. Anyways, there's a part when Sydney Fife (Segel) yelled or howled back to a man who tries to tell him to scoop his dog's poop. Peter Klaven (Rudd) was even taught to yell like an animal and honor the process then rewarded with a corndog. Wahaha! LMAO.

But what I find interesting is the soundtrack. Nice list of songs, eh? A very big thanks to YouTube for this decent song from Latch Key Kid, Good times.

By the way, I do get the joke that most Italians are fag. Thomas Lennon even looked like Bruno! Hahaha!

Did You know?

Latchkey kid or latchkey child refers to a child who returns from school to an empty home because his or her parents are away at work, or a child who is often left at home with little or no parental supervision.

Thursday, May 14, 2009

Happily Melancholic

I am predominantly melancholic and I'm a work in progress. I may think or wallow too much, but hey, that's me. Meet me in person, you'll gonna love me. Wink!

I've tried this test just for fun from Jehiah that gave me results of:
43% Melancholy, 30% Phlegmatic, 20% Choleric and 8% Sanguine. As much as i wanted to be sanguine, I can't. Me sad. :(

Okay, I have to brush away those negative thoughts so I'll just focus on my strengths. Here it goes...

Strengths of a Melancholy
The Introvert | The Thinker | The Pessimist

The Melancholy's Emotions

* Deep and thoughtful
* Analytical
* Serious and purposeful
* Genius prone
* Talented and creative
* Artistic or musical
* Philosophical and poetic
* Appreciative of beauty
* Sensitive to others
* Self-sacrificing
* Conscientious
* Idealistic

The Melancholy As A Parent

* Sets high standards
* Wants everything done right
* Keeps home in good order
* Picks up after children
* Sacrifices own will for others
* Encourages scholarship and talent

The Melancholy At Work

* Schedule oriented
* Perfectionist, high standards
* Detail conscious
* Persistent and thorough
* Orderly and organized
* Neat and tidy
* Economical
* Sees the problems
* Finds creative solutions
* Needs to finish what he starts
* Likes charts, graphs, figures, lists

The Melancholy As a Friend

* Makes friends cautiously
* Content to stay in background
* Avoids causing attention
* Faithful and devoted
* Will listen to complaints
* Can solve other people's problems
* Deep concern for other people
* Moved to tears with compassion
* Seeks ideal mate---->that's what I'm talkin' about. Hahaha!

You can try this free Personality/Temperament Test on
Have fun guys! :)

Wednesday, May 13, 2009

Drifting Away

I'm sorry I haven't talked to you in so long. I feel I've been lost. No bearings, no compass. I kept crashing into things, a little crazy, I guess. I've never been lost before. You were my true north. I could always steer for home when you were my home. Forgive me for being so angry when you left. I still think some mistakes been made and I'm waiting for God to take it back. But I'm doing better now. The work helps me. Most of all, you help me. You came into my dream last night with that smile of yours that always held me like a lover, rocked me like a child. All I remember from the dream is a feeling of peace. I woke up with that feeling and tried to keep it alive as long as I could. I'm writing to tell you that I'm on a journey toward that peace. And to tell you I'm sorry about so many things. I'm sorry I didn't take better care of you so that you never spent one minute being cold or scared or sick. I'm sorry I ever fought with you. I'm sorry I didn't apologize more. I was too proud. I'm sorry I didn't bring you more compliments on everything you wore and every way you fixed your hair. I'm sorry I didn't hold on to you with so much strength that even God couldn't pull you away...

A friend of mine sent this to me a long time ago. I know where he'd get this(from Message in a Bottle by Nicholas Sparks). But still...


Did you know?

The oldest message in a bottle spent 92 years 229 days at sea. A bottom drift bottle, numbered 423B, was released at 60º 50'N 00º 38'W on 25 April 1914 and recovered by fisherman, Mark Anderson of Bixter, Shetland, UK, at 60º 50'N 00º 37'W on December 10, 2006.


For What It's Worth

For what it's worth, it is never too late, or in my case, too early to be whenever you wanna be. There's no time limit. Start whenever you want. You can change or stay the same. There are no rules to this thing. You can make the best or worst of it. I hope you make the best of it. I hope you see things that'll startle you. I hope you feel things you never felt before. I hope you meet people with a different point of view. I hope you live a life you're proud of. If you find that you're not, i hope you have the strength to start all over again. -Benjamin Button (His letter to his daughter, Caroline)

Sure thing Mr. Button. Wink! Wink!

Sunday, May 3, 2009

Real beauty

"It has nothing to do with makeup. A really beautiful woman takes good care of herself, of her body, and radiates a strong, happy heart." -Pati Dubroff


For more you can go to

My Dog's IQ

My 7-year-old ShihTzu's IQ scored 17. Not bad for an oldie, huh? Well we adopted him early this year because his owner can't take care of him owner because they're leaving the country. They were planning to put him to sleep since no one wants to adopt an old dog. Poor doggy, so we decided to take him in. Since then, he's my closest companion from being my nap buddy to my exercise buddy to my fun buddy. He's very playful, smart and cute. You'll love him.

Here's how to test your dog's IQ for fun:

In the first test, the dogs had to tip over a can to uncover the treat underneath. The second test required them to free themselves from a towel tossed gently over their heads. In the third test, they had to retrieve a treat from under a very low table. The last test required them to discern their names from other everyday words.

The tests proved to be fun for dogs and people alike, while the results, at least in one case, were surprising. How did the participants score? Click the video link below to watch the test and learn the results. Then take the test at home with your dog. It’s an enjoyable way to learn more about how your best friend thinks.

Video Link

For more information you can visit

Have fun!

Au De Natural

Matthew likes his own scent so much he NEVER wears deodorant or cologne. Apparently, the only leading lady to ever complain was Kate Hudson, who would bring salt rock (natural deodorant) to the set of "How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days" and beg him to wear it. Matthew would refuse, saying he liked to smell like himself. He claims he showers a few times daily, which shocked us, since we've always thought he looked like he could use a good scrubbin'.

Hahaha! Surfers...